Remembering a loved one

At Distinct Cremations, we are dedicated to supporting you with remembering your loved one in a unique, personal and memorable way. In this section, we offer guidance on arranging a memorial service, memorial tributes, what to do with the ashes, along with helping to understand key terminology and the steps to take when someone dies.

Honouring a loved one can come in any number of shapes and sizes. As each one of us has such a unique personality and has lived such a unique life, there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to remembering a loved one.

For some, an all singing all dancing memorial service with dozens of friends and family at the local pub after an unattended, direct cremation would be the perfect send off. The deceased may have been the sort of person who wanted more of a celebratory farewell, therefore focusing more on the memorial service rather than the funeral itself would be apt.

Whereas for others, a more low-key tree planting at the local park may be more suitable. This could also follow a direct cremation or maybe an attended cremation with the nearest friends and family.

Below we'll direct you to a few pages within this section that will give you some ideas when it comes to remembering a loved one, and we look at some examples to provide you with a little inspiration.

We'll also detail some information about the legal proceedings about what to do when someone dies and signpost you to some support headlines that will help navigate this intensely difficult time.

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Memorial service & tribute ideas

The most important thing to think about when planning a memorial service or a memorial tribute is your loved one's personality and character. Everything else is secondary.

In the 21st century, there's no need to stick to tradition. You can have a funeral and memorial service that's tailored and unique. So don't be afraid to be unconventional or get a little creative. Just focus on what would make your loved one smile and their heart sing.

If you're looking for some inspiration for a memorial service, a celebration of life or a memorial tribute, below are a few articles that will be of the utmost help.

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Remembering a loved one terminology

Understanding the terminology associated with memorial services and memorial tributes can help clarify the process and reduce the planning stress. Some terms such as funeral reception, memorial service and wake may be used interchangeably and may differ from region to region within the UK.

Here are some key terms explained:

Memorial service

A ceremony to honour the deceased without the body present. This can be held anywhere and anytime after the death.

Wake

A gathering held after the funeral, used interchangeably with memorial service or funeral reception. Often a wake takes place immediately after the funeral.

Celebration of life

A ceremony focused on celebrating the deceased's life, often less formal and more uplifting. This can be held in place of a memorial service or wake.

Funeral reception

A gathering held after the funeral, and another term used for a memorial service or a wake.

Interment of ashes

This means burying the ashes in a cemetery plot or private location, often accompanied by a plaque or marker.

Scattering of ashes

Releasing ashes in a chosen location such as your garden, at sea, or another place meaningful to the deceased.

What to do when someone dies

After a death, knowing what steps you'll need to take, and the order in which to take them, can feel daunting.

But, here at Distinct Cremations, we’ll help and support you through every step from the death of your loved one to the day of the funeral, and we are available 24/7 to lend you a helping a hand - just give us a call anytime on 01543 211997, no matter how big or small your question.

Below are a few resources that may help: a downloadable checklist which has everything you need for when the inevitable happens, and step-by-step guides tailored to where your loved one dies.

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Here at Distinct Cremations, we have created a free checklist for you to download which lets you know what you need to do when someone dies.

Download our checklist below or speak to our expert team on 01543 211997 today.

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What to do when someone dies at home

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When someone dies at home, the situation can be particularly distressing. If the death was expected, such as in the case of a terminal illness, you should contact their GP or the nearest doctor to issue a Medical Certificate of Cause of Death (MCCD). If the death was unexpected, call emergency services immediately.

For a detailed guide on what to do when someone dies at home, read our guide.

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When someone dies in a care home

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If your loved one passes away in a care home, the staff will usually handle most of the immediate arrangements. They will contact the GP to verify the death and issue the MCCD. They will also inform you as soon as possible and help with the initial steps that need to be taken.

For more information on what to do when sometimes dies in a care home, read our article.

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What to do when someone dies in hospital

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When a death occurs in a hospital, you’ll likely be made aware that death is imminent and be able to prepare for it. The medical staff will take care of confirming the death and issuing the Medical Certificate of Cause of Death. The hospital will provide you with the necessary documents and guidance on what to do next.

For details on what to do when someone dies in a hospital, explore our guide.

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Getting support

If you're struggling or would just like someone to talk to, below are a few helplines that do great work and provide a shoulder to lean on for anyone who needs support:

Samaritans (Call: 116 123) - Free 24/7 support for anyone needing any kind of emotional support

Cruse (Call: 0808 808 1677) - Free helpline supporting those suffering with grief

Veterans UK (Call: 0808 191 4218) - Government-run support organisation providing free support for veterans and their families

Age UK (Call: 0800 678 1602) - The UK's leading charity helping millions of older people with support, companionship and advice

The Silver Line (Call: 0800 470 8090) - Free 24/7 helpline for older people struggling with loneliness, sadness or lowness

Other helpful resources

Below are a few more resources that may come in use when remembering a loved one or when anticpating a death.

The costs associated with a funeral

Cremation costs

If you’re looking at arranging your own funeral or that of a loved one, you’ll need to know exactly how much a funeral costs so that you can make the appropriate arrangements.

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Preparing for a loved one's death

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Whether you're considering a hospice for your loved one or you're looking at organising the funeral, it's worthwhile making arrangements as early as possible to help ease the stress slightly.

Preparing for a loved one's death

Funeral plans for yourself or a loved one

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Whether you're planning for yourself or someone else, funeral plans allow you to cement the funeral arrangements at a less stressful time, and cover the costs in monthly instalments.

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What our customers say about us

We offer the highest level of support, but don't just take our word for it. Below are recent reviews from customers who bought a funeral with us.

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Lisa Matthews, on Feefo 22 Mar 2025
Very helpful with difficult decisions. No pressure sales as with other funeral services I approached. Also very good price in comparison with others.
Anonymous, on Feefo 19 Mar 2025
From my first interaction requesting a guide to my conversation with Sophie, I cannot fault the service I've received. All my questions have been answered in a way that I can understand what I am being offered and what I have asked for. All processes and procedures have been explained and I have been given ample time to research other possible companies and I haven't felt pressurised or been given the 'hard sale'. On the service i have received so far I would highly recommend them to family and friends
Anonymous, on Feefo 10 Mar 2025
Bought a policy online which was quick and simple to do and then received a courtesy call from Distinct Cremations to make sure that I was happy with my purchase. Very professional.
Debbie Burchell, on Feefo 8 Mar 2025
I had no idea where to go when my mum passed away. We had discussed that she wanted to be cremated, but that was it. My partner saw Distinct Cremations on our local Crematorium website, as they work with them. I didn't want loads of fuss, or to go into an office. Just a lovely personal service. Distinct Cremations went above and beyond in every area. I picked my options on the website, nice and simple, to get an idea of my quote. Then had a lovely discussion on the phone with Dan. We talked about all the options I wanted and he was so thougthful, sincere and genuinely supportive, I was really nicely surprised. It was really simple to put the order through and to pay for. Since then I have had a singluar, regular contact called Grace who looked after me every step of the way. The professionalism and compassion of the staff at Distinct Cremations is second to none. I was informed at every step with what was going to happen. They regularly checked in with me, to make sure I was doing ok. The service and celebrant Carol Porter was incredible. Everything happened exactly as planned. I couldn't have wanted anything better. The ashes were delivered to me at home, I had the standard box for them to be delivered in. The gentleman who delivered them was really kind and compassionate also. They came in a really nice blue box. Thank you for making one of the worst times of my life as easy as it could have been. I would highly recommend Distinct Cremations to everyone. I would definitely use them again myself.
Anonymous, on Feefo 7 Mar 2025
I purchased a cremation plan for my wife and myself. It was very easy to do and so far everything is fine. Just hope I don"t need to use it for a while. Bob
Yvette Glover, on Feefo 7 Mar 2025
I am so grateful to the two people who looked after me during the process of organising the cremation. They were really caring and nothing seemed too much trouble. A huge thank you to Daniel and especially Maxine.
David Peter Lee, on Feefo 6 Mar 2025
Excellent company and great customer service and follow up.
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