Remembering a loved one

At Distinct Cremations, we are dedicated to supporting you with remembering your loved one in a unique, personal and memorable way. In this section, we offer guidance on arranging a memorial service, memorial tributes, what to do with the ashes, along with helping to understand key terminology and the steps to take when someone dies.

Honouring a loved one can come in any number of shapes and sizes. As each one of us has such a unique personality and has lived such a unique life, there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to remembering a loved one.

For some, an all singing all dancing memorial service with dozens of friends and family at the local pub after an unattended, direct cremation would be the perfect send off. The deceased may have been the sort of person who wanted more of a celebratory farewell, therefore focusing more on the memorial service rather than the funeral itself would be apt.

Whereas for others, a more low-key tree planting at the local park may be more suitable. This could also follow a direct cremation or maybe an attended cremation with the nearest friends and family.

Below we'll direct you to a few pages within this section that will give you some ideas when it comes to remembering a loved one, and we look at some examples to provide you with a little inspiration.

We'll also detail some information about the legal proceedings about what to do when someone dies and signpost you to some support headlines that will help navigate this intensely difficult time.

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Memorial service & tribute ideas

The most important thing to think about when planning a memorial service or a memorial tribute is your loved one's personality and character. Everything else is secondary.

In the 21st century, there's no need to stick to tradition. You can have a funeral and memorial service that's tailored and unique. So don't be afraid to be unconventional or get a little creative. Just focus on what would make your loved one smile and their heart sing.

If you're looking for some inspiration for a memorial service, a celebration of life or a memorial tribute, below are a few articles that will be of the utmost help.

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Remembering a loved one terminology

Understanding the terminology associated with memorial services and memorial tributes can help clarify the process and reduce the planning stress. Some terms such as funeral reception, memorial service and wake may be used interchangeably and may differ from region to region within the UK.

Here are some key terms explained:

Memorial service

A ceremony to honour the deceased without the body present. This can be held anywhere and anytime after the death.

Wake

A gathering held after the funeral, used interchangeably with memorial service or funeral reception. Often a wake takes place immediately after the funeral.

Celebration of life

A ceremony focused on celebrating the deceased's life, often less formal and more uplifting. This can be held in place of a memorial service or wake.

Funeral reception

A gathering held after the funeral, and another term used for a memorial service or a wake.

Interment of ashes

This means burying the ashes in a cemetery plot or private location, often accompanied by a plaque or marker.

Scattering of ashes

Releasing ashes in a chosen location such as your garden, at sea, or another place meaningful to the deceased.

What to do when someone dies

After a death, knowing what steps you'll need to take, and the order in which to take them, can feel daunting.

But, here at Distinct Cremations, we’ll help and support you through every step from the death of your loved one to the day of the funeral, and we are available 24/7 to lend you a helping a hand - just give us a call anytime on 01543 211997, no matter how big or small your question.

Below are a few resources that may help: a downloadable checklist which has everything you need for when the inevitable happens, and step-by-step guides tailored to where your loved one dies.

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Here at Distinct Cremations, we have created a free checklist for you to download which lets you know what you need to do when someone dies.

Download our checklist below or speak to our expert team on 01543 211997 today.

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What to do when someone dies at home

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When someone dies at home, the situation can be particularly distressing. If the death was expected, such as in the case of a terminal illness, you should contact their GP or the nearest doctor to issue a Medical Certificate of Cause of Death (MCCD). If the death was unexpected, call emergency services immediately.

For a detailed guide on what to do when someone dies at home, read our guide.

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When someone dies in a care home

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If your loved one passes away in a care home, the staff will usually handle most of the immediate arrangements. They will contact the GP to verify the death and issue the MCCD. They will also inform you as soon as possible and help with the initial steps that need to be taken.

For more information on what to do when sometimes dies in a care home, read our article.

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What to do when someone dies in hospital

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When a death occurs in a hospital, you’ll likely be made aware that death is imminent and be able to prepare for it. The medical staff will take care of confirming the death and issuing the Medical Certificate of Cause of Death. The hospital will provide you with the necessary documents and guidance on what to do next.

For details on what to do when someone dies in a hospital, explore our guide.

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Getting support

If you're struggling or would just like someone to talk to, below are a few helplines that do great work and provide a shoulder to lean on for anyone who needs support:

Samaritans (Call: 116 123) - Free 24/7 support for anyone needing any kind of emotional support

Cruse (Call: 0808 808 1677) - Free helpline supporting those suffering with grief

Veterans UK (Call: 0808 191 4218) - Government-run support organisation providing free support for veterans and their families

Age UK (Call: 0800 678 1602) - The UK's leading charity helping millions of older people with support, companionship and advice

The Silver Line (Call: 0800 470 8090) - Free 24/7 helpline for older people struggling with loneliness, sadness or lowness

Other helpful resources

Below are a few more resources that may come in use when remembering a loved one or when anticpating a death.

The costs associated with a funeral

Cremation costs

If you’re looking at arranging your own funeral or that of a loved one, you’ll need to know exactly how much a funeral costs so that you can make the appropriate arrangements.

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Preparing for a loved one's death

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Whether you're considering a hospice for your loved one or you're looking at organising the funeral, it's worthwhile making arrangements as early as possible to help ease the stress slightly.

Preparing for a loved one's death

Funeral plans for yourself or a loved one

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Whether you're planning for yourself or someone else, funeral plans allow you to cement the funeral arrangements at a less stressful time, and cover the costs in monthly instalments.

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What our customers say about us

We offer the highest level of support, but don't just take our word for it. Below are recent reviews from customers who bought a funeral with us.

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Cheryl, Gary and Wayne Eaton, on Feefo 26 Jun 2025
The team were incredible in guiding us through the difficulties, from the very first moment of contact, they were empathetic, understanding and patient, till the last contact ensuring we had the future support we might need. I can't recommend these guys highly enough. If you are looking for an end of life arrangement of least stress to your loved ones, then i'd always suggest Distinct Cremations. Thank you again Kerry for all your help and assistance.
Alan Harris, on Feefo 17 Jun 2025
Distinct Cremations provided a professional service for my Fathers cremation. Every discussion I had with their representative Sarah, was helpful and supportive. She clearly explained the entire process and made sure we understood all of the options at each stage. Losing someone is very painful and to have someone take care of the cremation with all of our selected options was a great comfort. I have already recommended Distinct to my family and friends who are considering this type of cremation.
Anonymous, on Feefo 16 Jun 2025
From the first contact we had with Distinct Cremations, they were compassionate, understanding and professional. Nothing was too much for them, making a difficult situation more bearable. Our contact, Grace was amazing. Would happily recommend them. Thank you
Kevin William Gallagher, on Feefo 16 Jun 2025
They were so caring and I had my doubts at first. So when my neighbour was very poorly. I discussed it with her and we agreed to go forward. So I rang them and from then I they put my mind at rest. When she passed away one phone call out of hours and everything was all it took. My neighbour was picked up in 2 hrs 30 minutes. This was around 2am. Then they helped me through every step of the way. The ashes were delivered to my door within 7 days. Everything was so dignified. I've enquired about mine when the time comes. Wish to Thank everyone for the service they gave me. The lady 79 years old involved had no children and no close family. Kind regards Kevin Gallagher
Anonymous, on Feefo 14 Jun 2025
Both my mum and dad took out these policy's, my dad passed last year and mum passed this year, distinct cremations dealt with everything professionally and with courtesy, everything my parents wanted was taken care of, the people were lovely and always on the end of the phone for anything, thankyou from the bottom of my heart for making a tought time for our family into a pleasant experience ❤️
Warwick Kevin Fisher, on Feefo 8 Jun 2025
Outstanding from start to finish..I would definitely recommend Distinct Cremations ...All communication was dealt with professionally and compassionately.
Anonymous, on Feefo 7 Jun 2025
Cannot fault the excellent service received, all the employees are lovely, professional while friendly and compassionate. Highly recommend them and especially our director Maxine for making such a sad, difficult time/task easier to deal with.
Anonymous, on Feefo 5 Jun 2025
Was a fantastic service and would definitely recommend to others. They keep you upto date with every process which was very much appreciated.
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