Remembering a loved one

At Distinct Cremations, we are dedicated to supporting you with remembering your loved one in a unique, personal and memorable way. In this section, we offer guidance on arranging a memorial service, memorial tributes, what to do with the ashes, along with helping to understand key terminology and the steps to take when someone dies.

Honouring a loved one can come in any number of shapes and sizes. As each one of us has such a unique personality and has lived such a unique life, there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to remembering a loved one.

For some, an all singing all dancing memorial service with dozens of friends and family at the local pub after an unattended, direct cremation would be the perfect send off. The deceased may have been the sort of person who wanted more of a celebratory farewell, therefore focusing more on the memorial service rather than the funeral itself would be apt.

Whereas for others, a more low-key tree planting at the local park may be more suitable. This could also follow a direct cremation or maybe a small, attended cremation with the nearest friends and family.

Below we'll direct you to a few pages within this section that will give you some ideas when it comes to remembering a loved one, and we look at some examples to provide you with a little inspiration.

We'll also detail some information about the legal proceedings about what to do when someone dies and signpost you to some support headlines that will help navigate this intensely difficult time.

Memorial service & tribute ideas

The most important thing to think about when planning a memorial service or a memorial tribute is your loved one's personality and character. Everything else is secondary.

In the 21st century, there's no need to stick to tradition. You can have a funeral and memorial service that's tailored and unique. So don't be afraid to be unconventional or get a little creative. Just focus on what would make your loved one smile and their heart sing.

If you're looking for some inspiration for a memorial service, a celebration of life or a memorial tribute, below are a few articles that will be of the utmost help.

Group toasting a friend's memory

Remembering a loved one terminology

Understanding the terminology associated with memorial services and memorial tributes can help clarify the process and reduce the planning stress. Some terms such as funeral reception, memorial service and wake may be used interchangeably and may differ from region to region within the UK.

Here are some key terms explained:

Memorial service

A ceremony to honour the deceased without the body present. This can be held anywhere and anytime after the death.

Wake

A gathering held after the funeral, used interchangeably with memorial service or funeral reception. Often a wake takes place immediately after the funeral.

Celebration of life

A ceremony focused on celebrating the deceased's life, often less formal and more uplifting. This can be held in place of a memorial service or wake.

Funeral reception

A gathering held after the funeral, and another term used for a memorial service or a wake.

Interment of ashes

This means burying the ashes in a cemetery plot or private location, often accompanied by a plaque or marker.

Scattering of ashes

Releasing ashes in a chosen location such as your garden, at sea, or another place meaningful to the deceased.

The ashes

The ashes are an important part of remembering a loved one. For some, they will act as the centre point of a memorial service, while other families like to take the ashes to somewhere poignant to scatter them.

There are many different things you can do ashes, and below are a few articles you might find useful for inspiration and for logistics.

Decorative Ornamental Ashes Container

What to do when someone dies

After a death, knowing what steps you'll need to take, and the order in which to take them, can feel daunting.

But, here at Distinct Cremations, we’ll help and support you through every step from the death of your loved one to the day of the funeral, and we are available 24/7 to lend you a helping a hand - just give us a call anytime on 01543 211997, no matter how big or small your question.

Below are a few resources that may help: a downloadable checklist which has everything you need for when the inevitable happens, and step-by-step guides tailored to where your loved one dies.

Download our free checklist

Here at Distinct Cremations, we have created a free checklist for you to download which lets you know what you need to do when someone dies.

Download our checklist below or speak to our expert team on 01543 211997 today.

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What to do when someone dies at home

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When someone dies at home, the situation can be particularly distressing. If the death was expected, such as in the case of a terminal illness, you should contact their GP or the nearest doctor to issue a Medical Certificate of Cause of Death (MCCD). If the death was unexpected, call emergency services immediately.

For a detailed guide on what to do when someone dies at home, read our guide.

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When someone dies in a care home

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If your loved one passes away in a care home, the staff will usually handle most of the immediate arrangements. They will contact the GP to verify the death and issue the MCCD. They will also inform you as soon as possible and help with the initial steps that need to be taken.

For more information on what to do when sometimes dies in a care home, read our article.

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What to do when someone dies in hospital

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When a death occurs in a hospital, you’ll likely be made aware that death is imminent and be able to prepare for it. The medical staff will take care of confirming the death and issuing the Medical Certificate of Cause of Death. The hospital will provide you with the necessary documents and guidance on what to do next.

For details on what to do when someone dies in a hospital, explore our guide.

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Getting support

If you're struggling or would just like someone to talk to, below are a few helplines that do great work and provide a shoulder to lean on for anyone who needs support:

Samaritans (Call: 116 123) - Free 24/7 support for anyone needing any kind of emotional support

Cruse (Call: 0808 808 1677) - Free helpline supporting those suffering with grief

Veterans UK (Call: 0808 191 4218) - Government-run support organisation providing free support for veterans and their families

Age UK (Call: 0800 678 1602) - The UK's leading charity helping millions of older people with support, companionship and advice

The Silver Line (Call: 0800 470 8090) - Free 24/7 helpline for older people struggling with loneliness, sadness or lowness

Other helpful resources

Below are a few more resources that may come in use when remembering a loved one or when anticpating a death.

The costs associated with a funeral

Cremation costs

If you’re looking at arranging your own funeral or that of a loved one, you’ll need to know exactly how much a funeral costs so that you can make the appropriate arrangements.

Funeral costs

Preparing for a loved one's death

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Whether you're considering a hospice for your loved one or you're looking at organising the funeral, it's worthwhile making arrangements as early as possible to help ease the stress slightly.

Preparing for a loved one's death

Funeral plans for yourself or a loved one

Couple reviewing funeral plan options

Whether you're planning for yourself or someone else, funeral plans allow you to cement the funeral arrangements at a less stressful time, and cover the costs in monthly instalments.

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We offer the highest level of support, but don't take our word for it

Below are a selection of reviews from those who followed their instinct with Distinct and chose to buy a funeral with us.

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Stephen Craig Watson, on Feefo 16 Sep 2024
I wouldn't trust any other company to look after the cremation arrangements for my nearest and dearest. They have professionally and expertly dealt with both my parents' cremation in the past year and I couldn't be more content with the amazing level of service and care we/ they received.
Anonymous, on Feefo 4 Sep 2024
At a very sad time all at Distinct were wonderful. From my first contact phone call to the delivery of my wife’s ashes back to me they were caring considerate and helpful. All of the staff I dealt with were great but a special mention to Grace. Thank all very much
Anonymous, on Feefo 3 Sep 2024
Very pleased with the amount of one to one correspondence that kept us up to date with what was happening to my father. We were given a choice of times and dates for the delivery of my fathers ashes to us at home which was a great help. The calm and friendly way that the girl showed when handing over the ashes to us completed a first class experience for us with Distinct Cremations. Stephen Brown
Trevor Boulby, on Feefo 26 Aug 2024
Distinct cremations were excellent from first point of contact during such a difficult time loosing our much loved brother, Grace kept me updated on a regular basis, the empathy and her professionalism and understanding was amazing, always courteous sympathetic and extremely helpful and a credit to the company.
Anonymous, on Feefo 21 Aug 2024
The service we received for my late mother from Distinct Cremations was superb from start to finish. The staff were sensitive, thoughtful, informative and timely in all aspects of the process. They would ‘check in’ at various points to let us know what was happening and give a chance to feed back. The delivery of my mother’s ashes was dealt with in a respectful and professional manner. Thank you.
Danielle Dodgson, on Feefo 16 Aug 2024
At first when my dad booked this I thought this was the strangest, most ridiculous thing to do. When you die you have a funeral, service, wake ect that's what is done but going though with my dad's wishes of a no service cremation it really changed my opinion. It was so easy, the staff especially kerry were Fantastic and kept me updated every step of the way and then returned my dad to me with respect and updated me of arrival so i was fully aware. There was no hassle, no worrying about planning a funeral or who to invite. It just took all the extra stress and worry out of an already horrible time. I would definitely recommend this company and a no service cremation now. A big thank you to everyone and especially kerry, you was amazing and so helpful really made me feel better about the whole process.
Tracy Jayne Mulcaster, on Feefo 14 Aug 2024
Would like to say thanks to the great service and help I received thanks to Maxi e she was amazing thank you **
Anonymous, on Feefo 10 Aug 2024
I would totally recommend Distinct Cremations. When my Dad passed away from the very first phone call after he passed to the calls from Sarah who was our point of contact, we were treated with total compassion by all representatives of Distinct Cremations. Sarah kept us informed of where we were with the required paperwork, once everything was received we got calls just to check in to see how everything was going. After the cremation she called to let us know everything went ok and to arrange the delivery of my dad's ashes.
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